Recently I was told that my ex has been making up outrageous stories about me to his family and his friends.  At first it bothered me because I actually like those people.  

If this had happened to me even just about 3 years ago, I would be on the phone fighting with him about what he is doing and perhaps even contacting people that he is telling lies to and tell my side of the story.

I find myself having really no interest in defending myself, even though I don’t want them to think badly about me.  

After a brief moment of unsettling feeling in me, perhaps even a bit worried, I talked myself through what I already know, that all that he says and perhaps even gotten himself to believe the things that he is saying to people, there is nothing that I could do about it and ultemiately what anyone thinks about me does not matter.

The reason why what he is doing and what people might believe about me is not important is because:

• No matter what they think of me, what they think of me does not reflect on who I truly am
• What he is saying, making up, what he may even have come to believe does not say anything at all about me.
• What he says, how often, and to who he says, is completely out of my control and there is nothing that I can do about any of it.
• What I do have control over are what I am doing with my life, the work that is in front of me, and how I process what he is doing whether it hurts me or does not hurt me.
• If I allow what he is doing to hurt me, that is just what it is I would be allowing what a delusional person is doing to save his face. 
• I do not need to participate in his drama and in fact, if I did, I would be wrestling with a pig and getting dirty.

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