Once you have diligently been practicing the new habits that lead to your great healing for eight weeks and following it up with what I talked about in blog 6, you have another gift that you can give yourself.  

It’s a gift that you produce for someone else and, by doing so, create an excellent gift for your inner self.

The gift that I am talking about is to write.

You can write about your unique healing experience to help another person experiencing loneliness in the way you had.

You can write it for just one person or more. You decide.  Follow your heart.

What matters is that you do it for someone else other than you.  The act of helping someone else empowers you in ways that are beyond this world.

When your heart is involved in bringing healing and joy to someone else, you become doubly empowered and find strengths that you had not known about previously.

There is something powerfully empowering about being driven to do something to help someone else.

We, humans, are made this way.

We have something inside of us that awakes our will and determination when we are inspired by our desire to help someone else heal.

I was reminded of this just recently.

Every year I do a 30-day raw food cleanse.  I have not been on top of it for a few years, and this last year I tried several times and did not successfully carry it out.

A month ago, my best friend and my housemate came to me and shared how scared he was about his health, that he had been experiencing pain and discomfort in various parts of his body. 

He expressed maybe he should do a juice fast for a few days or so.  I told him that if he did raw food eating for a month, I would do it with him.

So we did.  

He has since lost all of the pains and discomfort in his body and is feeling very healthy, and we just surpassed thirty days two days ago.

I have always struggled with thirty days of raw food eating every year. I have almost always, especially at the tail end, feeling like I was missing out on real foods, leading to little cheating at the last phase.

This time, I never felt the sense of losing anything and have had a lot of fun learning about raw cooking.

I have done this because I have been trying to help my best friend heal, making various menus for him to eat.

This is the first time I did raw food cleanse to help someone I care about instead of just myself, and I never felt any sense of loss but enjoyed all the good feelings that clean eating provides.

It is most amazing what happens to us when we are doing something for someone else.  

We become more creative.  We become wiser.  We become inspired.

I have learned so much this time around.  Three days have passed now after the 30 days of cleanse, and I am still eating raw and learning new ways to prepare extremely healthy cuisine.

I am not yet prepared to give up other foods, but I am learning as much as I can about raw cooking. I am interested in learning more about the vegan diet in addition.  With a vegan diet, I will be able to cook some things.

My friend’s worry was so powerful that I did something good for me with ease and inspiration instead of a drudge that I experienced every time I had done it before.

That very instinct that we have to help others move us forward in our human development.  We are made this way.

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When you write about your healing journey that has taken you from experiencing that toxic, painful loneliness to an emotionally independent state, intending to help someone else, your learning and healing take on a whole other level. 

Your learning deepens. 

Act of writing, organizing your thoughts, pulling out of yourself more profound wisdom, and getting to see just how limitless your expanding can be is more excellent than any words can describe.

You learn more.  

You learn more about how you have healed.

You learn more about how to flourish.  

You gain a more profound sense of yourself and your potential.  

You gain more profound self-acceptance.

You learn to see for yourself the misinformation that you have picked up.  

You learn how to accept yourself unconditionally in ways that you never imagined that you could.

There are countless things that I have learned writing about my healing journey, and one of the ones that I love so much is the continual “ah-ha” moments.  I am surprised again and again every time it happens to me.

Writing about my healing to share what I have learned has developed my ability to further access learning and wisdom in ways that I don’t think I fully understand.  I say that because I am amazed every time more education and more understanding happens. 

It has been the most fantastic gift.

I continue to learn to love myself more unconditionally.

Writing that I do to teach others what I have learned is largely responsible for my continual growth and powerful healing.

I am simply awed every time I watch myself react emotionally in ways that are new, healthy, and peaceful

I want you to experience this for yourself, again and again, as I do.

I have been on this journey for about three years, and I will never quit writing because of this and other reasons.

The educational power of writing is almost like magic.  Its power is unbelievable.  As I write this, I still have not grasped just how amazing my growth has been.  I feel like the luckiest person in the world.

You have so many beautiful reasons to write about your healing journey for others and, in the end, for yourself.  

What heals the hive, heals the bee.

What if your letter that you write for that one person powerfully helps her?  

What if that essay you write causes the awakening from long funk and suffering? 

What if that book you write helps change countless people’s lives?  

What if your unique experiences help people in ways you never imagined possible?  What if?

Do you see now why writing can be so powerfully important?

Do you want to know how to start?

First, I secretly hope that you have decided to write a book.  If you find yourself feeling intimidated th the idea, if you think that you cannot write a book, if that is how you feel, then you must write a book—just saying.

There is no length required.

You will write just want you want to write.

Once you have decided that you will write this book, however long, even a letter length, or an essay or a short mini-book, or a short book, or a fast read book, whichever you have decided to write, carve out a time that you will write each day, at the same time each day.

I could be one hour, two hours, three hours. (at least one hour)

First, outline how you are going to tell your story.

For example, you might want to talk about your story, how you got to a place where you had learned to feel lonely in the way that you did.

You can talk about your beliefs around it.

You can then talk about why you decided to change that and to feel better.

You can then talk about what you did that worked.

You can also talk about what you did that didn’t work.

You can talk about the powerful changes that have occurred in your life because of the self-work that you did.

You can talk about how your life has changed and is changing because of the changes that you have made in your life.

It is just that simple.

If you want to make your writing better, rewrite.  Good writing is rewriting.

Now go write.