What you gain when you get at the source of it.

When you free yourself from your problems’ real culprit, you will be free of the issues.

When you get rid of what or who is pulling strings to your unhappiness and pain, you have a real chance to be happy.

If what is pulling the strings of the loneliness you have been experiencing is expunged from your life, you will no longer experience the loneliness for too long.

As I mentioned before, what’s causing your loneliness is not being alone.  The pain you are experiencing is not coming from those things you think, but they are coming from within you.  Those feelings that you are having are not out of your control.  You have all the power in the world over the emotions that you experience, loneliness included. You exert that power by first knowing you have it, then learning how to get free of what weighs you down, strengthening the muscles you have forgotten, and then using those very muscles to be the boss of your emotional life, including loneliness.

1) When you come to believe you are lovable,

When you have come to know that you are lovable, you will no longer allow people who are less than well-intentioned to remain in your inner circle of life.  Your heart now knows what your head had known or suspected all along. You don’t dwell in unnecessary feelings of guilt and trust your decisions and desires, and are in a regular practice of following those inner instructions.  Your second nature is to trust yourself with love, kindness, and self-compassion.  Your subconscious mind is your best friend, not your foe.

You will give of yourself and your loyalty to those who genuinely deserve you and your dedication.

You will emanate a definite sense of self, attract your like, and welcome those positive, reliable selves into your life.  This will reinforce your subconscious and conscious mind the realness, the valid-ness, and the rightness of true self-love that you feel inside you.

2) When you come to know that you are enough just as you are,

When you see that you are enough, good enough, and valid, you open up your life to the real possibilities of life.  

You will not dwell in insecurities or think or feel negative judgments of yourself in comparison to others.

You will be in charge of your emotions and become self-aware and open to be curious about the emotional and spiritual atmosphere around you, close and far. 

Bullies will lose its power in your life.

You begin genuinely winning at life, competing against you with a team and allies who are also you.

Nothing holds you back emotionally, spiritually, and financially.

3) When you begin to connect to yourself and your world,

You become aware of your needs and wants and get into a regular practice of meeting them and enjoy the sense of calm, peace, and joy.

You move through your time and space with calm courage and allowance of wonder and possibility.  You become tuned into your creativity and oneness.  

You realize that you belong.

4) When you become free from a negative mindset and victim mindset,

You become the boss of your life. 

You no longer have reasons to feel miserable about things that you do not have control over.   You focus on what you have the power to control, and that practice deepens your self-empowerment. 

The remarkable aspect of having this “hero’s mindset” is that having real power over your life is habit-forming.  You will naturally take on more and more of your hero’s ways.

You become addicted to working on making things that you want to happen.

You see life’s games and become addicted to the thrill of solving the riddles and tackling the game and winning.

5) When you are living your purpose, doing your life’s work,

When you are on your life’s path, acting on your passion, making a positive difference in the world, as we are all meant to do, you are living the truest and happiest life.

Your life will be filled with passion and creativity.  You will experience the state of flow.

You are doing and living a life that you were born to live, and with it, you have arrived at who you are supposed to be. 

When you are whole, when you are in the state of being the best version of yourself, life becomes boundless. You manifest and create things that you desire with ease.  You are in an optimal state and flow through life with ease.

You will look to an outsider as if you have the Midas touch in all things, and it is because you are whole and therefore have the excess to the best version of everything that is you in this universe.

Your relationships, career, health, success, joy, happiness, and everything will be at their best because you are the best version of yourself.

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In the next blog, I will discuss with you just how you could overcome loneliness.