How to love yourself when you are feeling bad about yourself
You’re feeling bad. Something is not going your way. Someone has hurt your feelings. Someone may be rejecting you. You made a mistake that feels like a huge failure.
Whatever is going on, you are having a hard time with it and you are feeling pretty depressed. You are hurting.
You are feeling very bad about yourself about the hurtful thing that has just happened. You also know that you have a tendency to feel bad about things and be hard on yourself because you lack self-love and you are thinking that if you could only love yourself right now that much of the pain would go away, perhaps even all of the pain would go away.
You would love to know how to love yourself right now and stop the pain.
This is what I would like you to do so you could ease the pain.
If you can, take yourself to a place where you can sit looking at the beauty that you enjoy. Go to a place where you can feel safe, comfortable, and be surrounded by feelings of beauty and healing.
- Body of water
- Trees
- A coffee shop that you love being in with a cup of coffee
Then I want you to first give yourself a feeling of compassion for what you are feeling by saying with compassion the following:
- I am so sorry that you are hurting right now. You don’t deserve this feeling. I love you. I am so sorry that you are going through it.
Just keep saying it to yourself with your heart full of compassion, truly feeling compassion for yourself. Keep saying it gently and lovingly until you are feeling fully peaceful.
Next what I want you to do is to begin doing self-love actions as a practice to build the muscle of self-love and by doing the things I will be talking about that way, you will more automatically react to yourself with self love the next time other things happen because in life hurtful things happen, and also by loving yourself habitually, you are less likely to allow others to hurt you as often as you may do now.
The following are things to practice daily:
- Fall in love with your flaws.
- Forgive yourself for the mistakes that you have made.
- Face your fears
- Learn how to stop caring what other people think
- Learn how to trust yourself to make decisions
- Meditate
- Practice excellent self-care
- Allow yourself to be powerful
Watch the video below to get more information about loving yourself.