how to heal
Obstacle is the way, by Ryan Holiday
The types of books I love have the following attributes
- I love learning something new
- Inspires me to see possibilities
- Learn life skills that help me become a better version of myself
- Empowers me
- I gain new insight into human nature
- Learn about other great books
“Obstacle is the way” has all of the attributes that I love about books.
- I learned about the many people in history that overcame huge obstacles by never giving up, using disadvantages to empower themselves, doing whatever it took, persevering, moving beyond their egos, never stopping moving, and focusing on the process instead of their egos.
- I was and am inspired to look for ways to tackle what has been a challenge for me in my life
- Focusing on new ways of looking at my challenges teaches me new life skills that will help me be better equipped for my current project and my future projects.
- Reminder to not waste time
- I am reminded that human possibilities are beyond what we can imagine
- To never give up
- To keep moving
- Focusing on the process and not the result which actually helps you succeed better because your aim is to learn, grow and do your best
I love the phrase, “love obstacles.” I cannot imagine a life of less than what you can possibly be when you are in the mode of loving obstacles. Life has them. We can either succumb to them, or resent them or fear them, or we can use them to fuel our growth, fuel our strengths and fuel our successful outcome.
How to move beyond the injuries from narcissistic abuse
If you have been in a narcissistic abusive relationship or any other kind of abusive relationship, and you have been on a difficult healing journey this blog is for you.
Maybe you wonder why the full healing takes so long, or you wonder if you can ever fully heal because you still experience pain from that past and many in support groups that you belong to also seem to be eluded by real and permanent healing themselves.
The reason for the difficulty is that many do not know how a real change and healing really must take place. Many do not think true healing is possible for them. Many focus on things that they do not have power to change which takes focus off of the areas that they actually have the power to change thereby halting their real and true change. When you are focusing on what is outside of your control it is waiting for the condition outside of you to change.
When you are looking for change to take place on the outside of you, what you do not have control over, you are not going to focus on the areas of your life that you actually have the power to affect real change. By moving your focus beyond what might be happening to you to what you could do to change your life is the only powerful way to change your life and heal yourself.
The way to heal best possible way is to expand the focus beyond injuries, the pain and the self while taking actions to build new empowered emotional habits along the path that is about being a part of something that is greater than the self.