breakup Archives - Heal Your Heart & Find Your Life

Breakups are hard anyway, but a breakup from a narcissist ex is often even harder. It is in large part due to the fact that you had been practicing being without yourself in order to make it work with someone who disregarded everything that was you. To avoid problems and conflicts with the narcissist ex, you complied with their wants and wishes, learning to distance yourself from any and all things that were you. In order to get your sense of you back, you can put to practice the steps laid out below.

Rebuild your sense of yourself
1. Reconnect with people who you have lost touch with because of your ex
2. Do things that are important to you by yourself
3. Do things that make you feel personal meaning and accomplishments

Take charge of every aspect of your life, current, and the future
1. Don’t ask for permission from anyone at least for a bit and you decide to do things and do them
2. Decide on what you will do daily, weekly, monthly, yearly and for your future

Learn how to practice giving to yourself
1. Do things for yourself that you ignored during the relationship
2. Pamper yourself regularly
3. Take time to spend with yourself for yourself

Learn how to trust yourself.
1. Practice trusting your perceptions
2. Practice trusting your decisions
3. Practice trusting your desires

Find or be on your purposeful path
1. Start doing things that are about your meaning and life’s purpose and your life’s work. Do whatever it takes to start on your path or if you don’t know what your path is, do whatever it takes to find your path.

By taking the above steps mindfully, you will begin to take your life back and by taking your life back, you will reconnect with the fact that you are worthy of love and that you are enough. When you heal yourself the right way, you are powerfully healing our world in a powerful way.

How to best deal with the loneliness after a breakup – advice from a life coach.

When someone close to you is gone from your life, the loss is painful. When a romantic partner is gone from your life, the loss can be far more intense.

Here are six things that you can do to overcome the loneliness that you are going through from a broken heart.

Decide to learn about yourself and grow from this experience
1. Carol Dweck in her book, “Mindset” talks about the people who heal powerfully versus people who remain hurt for years and years. The ones that heal powerfully most often look inward after a breakup to see what they could learn about themselves so that they do not repeat the same mistake with their next partner. Their goal is to heal and find happiness and they heal and find happiness.
If you have a support system that you trust, share with them what you are going through
1. Some people may lose connection with their support network while in a relationship, especially if it was a controlling or abusive one. This is a time for you to work on reconnecting with your tribe to find yourself back again with those who truly care about you.
2. If you do not have a group that you trust, begin building and nurturing a tribe of your own.
Have an adventure
1. Do something that allows you to stretch your image of you. When you take on something that you had been intimidated by, it can let you see a new dimension about you so that you can gain self-appreciation
Seek out people who inspire you.
1. Instead of drowning in self-pity that everyone can get into during this time, surround yourself with voices of people who when you are around them or listening to their talks or reading their words, elevates your aspirations to lead you to reach for self-growth.
Help someone in the way that you love helping someone
1. If you are serving soup in a soup kitchen, you might be a person that gets touched by that experience but you may not be. I love helping people heal emotionally so when I am helping someone with their emotional wounds, I am inspired. But for you, it might be teaching someone how to paint, play music, play baseball. Whatever it is that you like teaching or helping people do, do that.
Get a breakup coach
1. If you’re having a hard time doing it alone, hire a breakup coach(life coach who specializes in healing heartbreaks) so that you can actively work on healing yourself.

Finally, what you need to know is that it is up to you, how long the lonely period lasts or how fast you heal. Be patient with yourself as you move up and down through the emotional roller coasters and know that if you do the right type of work, you will gain powerful stuff from this lonely experience after a heartbreak.