Emotional benefits of a Vegan diet

I have been on a high protein diet for the past decade, but I would do a raw cleanse for 30 days about once a year.  

I remember during a few of my cleanse, just looking at myself, my being, and feeling as if I felt like a different person. 

I felt even, calm and peaceful.  

In contrast, I had always been a sensitive and emotional person, so this was a different experience.

About 60 days ago, I started a raw food cleanse, and after thirty days, I remained plant-based eating, just adding cooked meals to my practice.

I have been feeling even, calm and peaceful in the way that I remember from during my raw food cleanse periods.

I have so far found three different articles that talk about the findings that show that, in general, vegans have a higher level of emotional well-being.  There are far fewer depressions and anxiety amongst vegans.

I have not found scientific reasonings that stand out to me, other than one article pointing to Omega 6 in the meats that could be causing the emotional ups and downs.

My curiosity goes to the affect that slautering time may have on the animals.

While I am still looking for scientific reasons behind why I am feeling the calm I am, I can confidently say that I feel different in a profoundly positive way.

Does what we eat affect us?

I have been eating a high protein, low carb diet for almost ten years.  That means I have been eating tons and tons of meat and dairy with very little fruit and vegetables.

I would do a raw cleanse about once a year then return to my high protein diet.

Almost two months ago, my best friend came to me and told me of the various physical ailments that he has been going through, and he had this feeling that he was not going to live too long.

He is my very best friend, and I did not want that to happen to him.

I offered to do a thirty-day raw food cleanse with him, and he agreed.

Within just two weeks, most of his pain in his ankle was gone.  Soon after, that pain in his heart was gone too.  I noticed how good his skin on his face began to look.

When we began the cleanse, he had been underweight for months.  Now he is back to his average weight.

What is interesting is that I have lost almost 10 lbs and am continuing to lose more weight. I was overweight when we began the cleanse.

In addition to the improvement of physical health, I have personally noticed powerful emotional and spiritual learning.

I feel things that I had not before.  I want to experience nature by doing challenging hiking experiences.  I have never desired to do such things.  

I have now begun to train so that I could do challenging trail runs.  I feel more connected to nature and even to ideas about the environment in more profound ways than I had been feeling.

I am excited and inspired to learn more about optimal health for humans and the optimal health for our planet.

How to get people to be supportive of you

I spent too many years, too many decades actually, troubled by people who were discouraging and unsupportive of me.

When I was little, I had no power to go against it.  When I got older, I tried to get those close to me to be encouraging and positive.

I tried sharing my feelings.  I tried asking that they stop being so negative.  I tried getting angry.  I tried cutting them out of my life for a time.

Nothing worked, and they continued to be unsupportive and discouraging.

Three years ago, I went through a profound emotional learning curve. 

I was trying to heal heartbreak and cure whatever it was inside of me that caused me to be in such an unhealthy relationship.

The learning that I did during that time continues to ripple through my inner and outer world.

There are so many things that I don’t do anymore.

One of the things that I don’t do anymore is expecting, wanting, and waiting for others to do things that make me happy.

First, there is not a thing that I can do about what others do or feel.

Second, there is not a thing that I should do about what others do or feel.

We have no power over what others do or feel.

What we have power over is what we do and what we feel.

When we focus our energy on what we do not have the power to affect, we waste our time and energy and cause ourselves misery.

When we focus our energy on what we do have the power to affect, we grow and prosper and cause ourselves to be genuinely happy.

I now focus my energy on things that I have the power to affect. 

When you focus your energy and time on things that you have the power to affect, you experience a higher level of happiness and a sense of peace. You also accomplish so much more.

Many who accomplish meaningful things do not wait for other’s support. They just do what they need to and want to do with their lives. 

Marcus Aurelius, the greatest emperor of Rome, the author of the Meditations, was the most powerful man in the known world during his lifetime.  Many relied on him for his support, while he could not and did not rely on them.  No one could understand or match his ambition for good.

Marcus Aurelius worked his hardest to care for his people without expecting anything back for himself, never mind support.

If we genuinely want to be good, as Marcu Aurelius aspired to be every day of his life, we have to place all expectations on ourselves and never on anyone else. 

When we do that, the problem of never getting the support of any kind disappears for good.  

What is left is your meaning and purpose to drive you to your most authentic best self.

Teach what you’ve learned with others about your loneliness journey

After you write that book(or anything else: letter, essay, book, etc.) that you do, there is one more thing that you must do to complete your hero’s journey.

You now can teach one or more people how to do what you have done to heal yourself.

Our world has a pandemic of loneliness.  

As you now see, the pain of loneliness is misunderstood by many.

When you teach others what has helped you, you are changing our world.  You are healing our world.

You are making this world a better place.

What if everyone who reads this book does just that?  What do you think could take place in our world?

We would have a different world.

We would have a changing world.

We would have a healing world.

I am sure you see that our world is in desperate need of true healing.  

What if our world can heal by all of us helping another to heal?

What if small acts of a continual and consistent habit of kindness can heal our whole world, one person at a time?

What if that is true?

What if we can change our world?

What if we can heal our world?

What if this is the time to heal our world?

All the chaos, hurt, pain, fights, misunderstanding, all of the mountains of things that have been taking place in recent history is an indication that it is time?

Why should some be so poor as others live so posh?  Why should some live happy while others drown in pain?

When we could make it better, why not?  What if it is time that we no longer put up with those conditions to go on when we can be of help, to be healing agents of our world.

What if every small proactive and positive thing that we do ripples out toward everything else to change our world?  

What if that is true?

I believe it is.

How to make sure you don’t go back to loneliness

Once you have diligently been practicing the new habits that lead to your great healing for eight weeks and following it up with what I talked about in blog 6, you have another gift that you can give yourself.  

It’s a gift that you produce for someone else and, by doing so, create an excellent gift for your inner self.

The gift that I am talking about is to write.

You can write about your unique healing experience to help another person experiencing loneliness in the way you had.

You can write it for just one person or more. You decide.  Follow your heart.

What matters is that you do it for someone else other than you.  The act of helping someone else empowers you in ways that are beyond this world.

When your heart is involved in bringing healing and joy to someone else, you become doubly empowered and find strengths that you had not known about previously.

There is something powerfully empowering about being driven to do something to help someone else.

We, humans, are made this way.

We have something inside of us that awakes our will and determination when we are inspired by our desire to help someone else heal.

I was reminded of this just recently.

Every year I do a 30-day raw food cleanse.  I have not been on top of it for a few years, and this last year I tried several times and did not successfully carry it out.

A month ago, my best friend and my housemate came to me and shared how scared he was about his health, that he had been experiencing pain and discomfort in various parts of his body. 

He expressed maybe he should do a juice fast for a few days or so.  I told him that if he did raw food eating for a month, I would do it with him.

So we did.  

He has since lost all of the pains and discomfort in his body and is feeling very healthy, and we just surpassed thirty days two days ago.

I have always struggled with thirty days of raw food eating every year. I have almost always, especially at the tail end, feeling like I was missing out on real foods, leading to little cheating at the last phase.

This time, I never felt the sense of losing anything and have had a lot of fun learning about raw cooking.

I have done this because I have been trying to help my best friend heal, making various menus for him to eat.

This is the first time I did raw food cleanse to help someone I care about instead of just myself, and I never felt any sense of loss but enjoyed all the good feelings that clean eating provides.

It is most amazing what happens to us when we are doing something for someone else.  

We become more creative.  We become wiser.  We become inspired.

I have learned so much this time around.  Three days have passed now after the 30 days of cleanse, and I am still eating raw and learning new ways to prepare extremely healthy cuisine.

I am not yet prepared to give up other foods, but I am learning as much as I can about raw cooking. I am interested in learning more about the vegan diet in addition.  With a vegan diet, I will be able to cook some things.

My friend’s worry was so powerful that I did something good for me with ease and inspiration instead of a drudge that I experienced every time I had done it before.

That very instinct that we have to help others move us forward in our human development.  We are made this way.

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When you write about your healing journey that has taken you from experiencing that toxic, painful loneliness to an emotionally independent state, intending to help someone else, your learning and healing take on a whole other level. 

Your learning deepens. 

Act of writing, organizing your thoughts, pulling out of yourself more profound wisdom, and getting to see just how limitless your expanding can be is more excellent than any words can describe.

You learn more.  

You learn more about how you have healed.

You learn more about how to flourish.  

You gain a more profound sense of yourself and your potential.  

You gain more profound self-acceptance.

You learn to see for yourself the misinformation that you have picked up.  

You learn how to accept yourself unconditionally in ways that you never imagined that you could.

There are countless things that I have learned writing about my healing journey, and one of the ones that I love so much is the continual “ah-ha” moments.  I am surprised again and again every time it happens to me.

Writing about my healing to share what I have learned has developed my ability to further access learning and wisdom in ways that I don’t think I fully understand.  I say that because I am amazed every time more education and more understanding happens. 

It has been the most fantastic gift.

I continue to learn to love myself more unconditionally.

Writing that I do to teach others what I have learned is largely responsible for my continual growth and powerful healing.

I am simply awed every time I watch myself react emotionally in ways that are new, healthy, and peaceful

I want you to experience this for yourself, again and again, as I do.

I have been on this journey for about three years, and I will never quit writing because of this and other reasons.

The educational power of writing is almost like magic.  Its power is unbelievable.  As I write this, I still have not grasped just how amazing my growth has been.  I feel like the luckiest person in the world.

You have so many beautiful reasons to write about your healing journey for others and, in the end, for yourself.  

What heals the hive, heals the bee.

What if your letter that you write for that one person powerfully helps her?  

What if that essay you write causes the awakening from long funk and suffering? 

What if that book you write helps change countless people’s lives?  

What if your unique experiences help people in ways you never imagined possible?  What if?

Do you see now why writing can be so powerfully important?

Do you want to know how to start?

First, I secretly hope that you have decided to write a book.  If you find yourself feeling intimidated th the idea, if you think that you cannot write a book, if that is how you feel, then you must write a book—just saying.

There is no length required.

You will write just want you want to write.

Once you have decided that you will write this book, however long, even a letter length, or an essay or a short mini-book, or a short book, or a fast read book, whichever you have decided to write, carve out a time that you will write each day, at the same time each day.

I could be one hour, two hours, three hours. (at least one hour)

First, outline how you are going to tell your story.

For example, you might want to talk about your story, how you got to a place where you had learned to feel lonely in the way that you did.

You can talk about your beliefs around it.

You can then talk about why you decided to change that and to feel better.

You can then talk about what you did that worked.

You can also talk about what you did that didn’t work.

You can talk about the powerful changes that have occurred in your life because of the self-work that you did.

You can talk about how your life has changed and is changing because of the changes that you have made in your life.

It is just that simple.

If you want to make your writing better, rewrite.  Good writing is rewriting.

Now go write.

Deepen emotional learning about loneliness

After the eight weeks of building your daily healing and growing habits to tackle loneliness, you will have already experienced changes in yourself. 

You are noticing significant changes in some of the ways that you are reacting to situations. 

To deepen your healing and your growth, daily practice the following:

  1. Excellently care for yourself.

Excellently caring for yourself excludes feelings of guilt and obligation.  Commit to letting go of those feelings relating to caring for yourself first and foremost!

Simply care for yourself lovingly.

Let’s begin.

Lovingly practicing self-care requires being fully present with and for yourself. You are spending quality time with yourself during those moments that you are taking good care of yourself.  You are your best friend at that moment.  You are your person at that moment.

  1. Meditate at least once a day for 15 minutes (Ziva meditation).  This will take about 20 minutes when you add the before and after a routine.

What I adore about Ziva meditation is that there is no judgment.  She advocates for letting go of judgment about thinking. Just do your best.  

Read her book called “Stress Less, Accomplish More.”

Doing her meditation has helped me genuinely become much more productive throughout my workday.

And again, it is so easy.

  1. Continue Journal (same one from the eight weeks)

The chances are high that after eight weeks of purposeful journaling first thing in the morning, you will likely smoothly have been continuing to do so because of the benefit it has been producing. 

  1. Practice being in the now.

One of the most valuable things that I learned from Ekhart Tolle’s The Power of Now is the idea that in this very moment, everything is ok.

His words show that when we are worrying, we are in the past or the future.

Also, when we live in the future or the past, we miss out on the present moment.

We all know this, and yet, it is too easy a practice to be in: being anywhere but the present moment. 

We are always running after the future or running from the past.

By being fully present in the moments of now, we are our most loving, most creative, and most resourceful.

The truest of the truth is that we are the most powerful in the now.  We have the most incredible access to our best selves in the now.

  1. Listen to learn

If your experience with listening had been hostile as a child(abused verbally), you might have difficulty being fully in the moment to listen to other people expressing themselves.  

If you had not experienced being in the moments of now fully to observe and listen to all that is going on around you, you might not know-how.

We miss out on so much as we live away from the now.  We miss out on people around us, those who are important to us.  We also miss out on our power by missing out on the real alchemy of life.

  1. Daily practice focusing on what you have the power to control and let go of what you can’t control.

Learning how to do this will save you from worrying, ruminating, feeling anxious, anxiety, and the negative emotions that waste your time, energy, and personal power.

When you then use your energy, time, and power on what you can control, you become a person who makes things happen.

As you take your focus and put it on something that you have the power to affect and take actions, you are creating a movement that frees you from being stuck.

You have the power to control a lot of things. Frequently, when we are stuck, it is because we are focusing on what we cannot control. We then waste time spirling into worries and anxieties.

When we focus on things that we have the power to control and take actions(since we can) and see the fruit of our labor. It inspires us to take more steps.  We do more and become more empowered.

By following your eight weeks of learning and healing with the above six steps, you will grow deeper into healing, reaching for your full potential self.

How to turn knowledge about loneliness into a habit

Have you ever listened to a talk or read a book and felt so inspired you thought you could fly to the moon and back?

Your actions change.  The way you feel about things even change.  You feel love for all people.  You feel forgiveness for all people. You feel boundless hope that finally you are changing in ways that you had always hoped.  

You know now that all things are possible.

But before you know it, things begin to turn to the previous normal.  

  • You begin to act the way you used to. 
  • You start to feel the way you used to feel. 
  • Everything eventually gets back to the way it used to be.

You then feel like a failure.  You feel like things never really had changed.  It was all an illusion.  Eventually, you forget all of it, and your life slings back to the way your life used to be.

You think to yourself:

  •  People don’t change.  
  • People cannot truly change.  
  • Things don’t change.  

But wait!  Things do change.  People do change.  Life does improve, and pains do heal!

  • Malcolm X went from being a misdirected troubled person to a heroic awe-inspiring person.
  • Victor Frankl went from being a tortured victim to a heroic life changer.
  • Maya Angelou went from a sexually molested child who stopped speaking to becoming an amazing woman who wrote prolific and beautiful books of poetry and prose that inspired millions of people.

Your change didn’t last because the habit required for actions that needed permanent change did not get established.

Your brief change took place with the inertia of inspiration.  You were inspired, and you had changed.  Your old habits took over and brought you back to the way things were.

Habits are powerful!

You have to practice habits that bring about the change and then learn to practice the habits that make those positive habits a reflex.

For example, let’s say that you have been too easily vulnerable to getting your feelings hurt by others.  You have always had what they call “thin skin.”

You can practice certain daily routines that help you build your sense of self and self-awareness and seeking the truth of things.

One of your daily practice is to ask yourself a question that challenges you to rethink the meaning behind what has just hurt your feelings.

You practice enough times to get to a point where when hurt feelings happen. Your mind automatically reacts by asking your mind to think about the meaning behind what had hurt your feelings critically.

You then get to a point where the hurtful moments do not last.  You then get to a point where you don’t feel much hurt because you are already asking the question.

You then get to a point where you directly go to asking the question, and this all happens so fast that your mind spits out an answer while you have intact your sense of who you are.

Philosophers and teachers have taught us that changing is like sweeping the floor. You sweep it once, it gets clean, but you have to sweep regularly to keep your house clean.

The internal cleansing is the same.  You must keep sweeping regularly.  What makes it remarkable is that your sweeping becomes automatic at some point that you don’t even realize you are regularly sweeping. 

Becoming a regular sweeper of your emotional life is your goal.  

Good habits are just as sticky as bad habits, so when your good habits become bound to you, you are on a roll.

There was a time feeling lonely was my life.  I can say that because it was a prevailing shadow inside me, over me, and on me at all times.  I operated based on that looming entity.

My life was revolved around trying to keep from the feeling of it.  I surrounded myself with socializing, being around people, talking with people, and anything that was a distraction from it.  I did just about everything that I could to avoid being alone to run from the potential pain of loneliness.

It wasn’t until I had arranged my life one day in a way that forced me to spend eight weeks all alone and discovered what it was that I was running from and the reason for the terrible loneliness that I had been avoiding as much as I could all my life. 

Today, I don’t feel lonely.  

Because of the work that I do, I spend a lot of time to myself, unlike how my life used to be where I was not alone most of the time.  But while being alone most of the time, I do not experience loneliness.

Here is what I did!

(You will need two notepads (3 by 5 & 6 by 9)

  1. The first step is to make a decision that you want this change. The inertia, the push that thrusts you into the transition so drastically that people around you that know you deeply will notice your difference and think that a miracle has taken place in your life or that you are a rare breed or are doing something impossible.
  2. For the next eight weeks, take the following steps every day.

Why eight weeks?

  1. Expert opinions have been between 30 days to 60 days to build a lasting habit.
  2. I did this same program for eight weeks, and core habits that have changed my life have not only maintained but has deepened and continues to expand and deepened even now effortlessly because of those eight weeks.

Here is the routine I followed for eight weeks, and you can adapt it to what makes sense to you:

  1. I woke up at 5:30
  2. Exercised
  3. Showered and dressed
  4. Made coffee
  5. Sat down at my desk with my coffee
  6. I wrote in my journal.
    1. What am I thankful for?
    2. What is my current life’s goal?
    3. What 2 to 5  things can I do today to move my goal forward?
    4. What kind of a person do I want to be today?

Doing that grateful list starts your day off right.  It opens your potential with an open and fully loving heart.  

Making the list of to-do keeps you mindful of essential things in a grander scheme of things. You will use your talents and passion and your personal resources, time, energy, and faculties instead of wasting them.

Answering the question about your current life’s goal keeps your mind on task about your goals so that you can stay focused on it, even if it is in the back of your mind.  So many people want to do things, even set goals but fail because they don’t stay focused on it.  When you mindfully write down what you want to do, you are setting yourself up for success because you are keeping your conscious and subconscious mind focused on it.  

When you come up with those few to-do list, you are taking your goals to the next level.  You are thinking about what needs to be done, writing it down, and giving yourself action steps to take that will bring your life forward.

Your answering the question about what kind of a person you want to be today is powerfully helpful because you are reminding yourself of your values and ethics.

Stoic philosophers did this to make sure they were living up to their true potential in being a truly good person.

It is so important to do because most of us just go through life, missing our values and ethics in ways that we conduct ourselves.  By asking the question and answering them, you are reminding yourself of who you want to be and starting your day with those self instructions in your mind. You are going to go through your day mindful of who you want to be.  You can then let your actions throughout the day be dictated by what you wrote down that day.

Carry out these steps every day for the next eight weeks, and you will discover things about yourself that you never thought you would.  You will heal powerfully.  Your healing will compound in ways that you had never seen yourself heal.  You will gain wisdom and insights that will amaze you again and again.

How to end loneliness for good

It is always worth our time to focus on changing an emotional habit that hinders us from living our best possible lives.  Loneliness is one of them.

The time you spend on healing and growing yourself out of a negative state like loneliness or any other negative state is worth everything.  No money, nothing of earthly good can match what you can gain by powerfully empowering yourself this way.

When loneliness plagues your life, it is imperative to get free of it. 

To get free, you must get into the driver seat of your life

Getting at the root of the problem of loneliness and tackling their causes are you taking the wheel.

So let’s drive.

As I mentioned in my last, “How to stop being lonely,” there are the root causes of this plague, the loneliness.

The first step is getting in touch with a very important truth.  This is truth is that you are lovable.

Getting in the driver’s seat of your belief, of your lovability, is the first cause to root out.  

If you have believed that you are not lovable, you learned that belief from someone. That, someone, taught it to you by not loving you, or not knowing how to love you in the way that you needed to be loved. 

The first thing you have to understand and see is that every human being on earth was born lovable.  

When I say that we were born lovable, I am saying that it is our most natural state.  It is our most natural state because we are nothing but love on that day.  

The only thing that changes for us is what we begin to take on as we grew up.  More specifically, our perception in our minds about our lovability. And that perception that we gain affects how we feel about ourselves and how others treat us.

The good news is that you have the power to give yourself all that you need right now.  It is time for you to begin loving you in action. 

The following are core loving actions that you must begin taking.

  • Practice self-compassion
  • Practice self-forgiveness
  • Practice self-kindness
  • Practice self-honoring
  • Practice good self-care

As you begin the practice of loving yourself, you have to become mindful of mindsets that likely exist in you right now.  

They are powerful contributors to the loneliness that you feel.

Negative mindset and victim mindset are very harmful friends who we must let go to stop being lonely, start being happy and start truly living our lives. 

Negative mindset and victim mindset are highly seductive and addictive while being hidden too quickly from the beholder’s view.

When you have a negative and victim mindset, you are like that of Odysiuss’s crew of men from the Greek mythology, who were charmed in the Aeaea island.  Like those men during the charmed state, you have no idea that your life is far from what you truly want.

To get free of the negative mindset that has been holding you back from your life in every way and causing the pain of loneliness, you can begin practicing a proactive mindset, what Carol Dweck of “Mindset,” calls, “Growth Mindset.” 

You will have to mindfully begin practicing the following action steps to gain a proactive mindset. 

  • Begin gratitude practice
    • It is incredible how powerful grateful practice is. It is equally impressive how many people go without grateful practice without ever knowing the level of power this practice has on one’s life.
    • Doing daily, once a day is a good start, but it is only a start.  Life takes over, or rather, we human beings are creatures of habit, and emotional practices are equally as powerful.
    • As doing it once a day is a helpful beginning, if done only once a day, the rest of the day gets filled with the old way of running your emotional life or letting your emotional life run you.
    • The best practice is to do a gratitude practice first in the morning and the last thing before bed.  Then throughout the day, every time you pause for thought or a break, give thanks to something around you or in front of you, or something or someone that is in your life that you are grateful for(their wellbeing, what they mean to you, what they mean to their community, etc.)
  • Focus on what you have the power to control and let go of what you cannot control
    • If you have no power to control the situation, then acknowledge that fact and then move your focus to what you can do to make things better for yourself. When you figure out what you can do, then take the action steps to make it better for yourself.
    • Taking the action steps to resolve your pain instantly empowers you.  You gain incredible insight into the possibilities of your power.  You realize just how much more powerful you are than what you thought or even knew.
    • You become more aware of yourself and what you are capable of.
    • You become more aware of your character and who you are in ways you had never really known before.
    • You get to see the power of change and your ability to change, and your ability to grow, learn and expand.
    • Learning all of these things about yourself gives you the knowledge you can do and manifests so much more than you had ever realized or known before, and this is one of the most amazing wonders of this universe that you could recognize.  It is truly the most amazing thing because you get to see just how powerful you are and how much you can do to change your world and make a positive dent in your world.  

Practice Hero’s mindset to lose victim mindset

If you have a victim mindset, it is because you likely were victimized at some time in your life, especially when you had little power to help yourself.  You didn’t have the power, knowledge, and skillsets at that time.  You could not see a way out at the time. 

You may have been picked on by your older siblings when you were little, and you were too small to defend yourself again that sibling.

You may have been beaten and starved by abusive caretakers.  You were too little to help yourself.

The critical part of all of this, no matter what has taken place in your life, is your present life’s happiness and fulfillment level.

It is also true that you can give yourself happiness and fulfillment, that which is your birthright.  

You can be and must be the master of your fate and captain of your soul.

There are excellent historical figures who faced victimizations and won the world by being a hero and not letting victimization take them over.  Just some of them were Victor Frankl, Nelson Mandela, Abraham Lincoln, Mark Twain, Virginia Woolf, Maya Angelou, and Epictetus.

The common factor amongst these people was that they used what challenged them, what gave them great pain, to make the very hero out of themselves.  They turned their pain into healing tools and made a powerful difference in our world.

Look for what you can gain from what happened to you, how you can grow, improve skills and knowledge, etc.

Look for how you can use what happened to you to help heal the world.

Take actions to learn and figure out your unique way to make a positive change.

When you do these things, you are a hero.  When you become a hero, you are no longer a victim.

When you are no longer a victim, you are who you were meant to be.

We are all affecting the world every moment, whether we mean to or not.  Our actions and states of mind matter because we are so deeply interconnected with one another.”  —  Ram Dass

The next step in overcoming the terrible plague of loneliness is to get connectted.

With the feeling of self-love and knowing that you are enough, leaving behind a negative mindset and victim mindset, you add to your growth and expansion by regular connection practice. 

When I say “connection,” I am not talking about connecting to other people in your life.  Not exactly. The connection that I am talking about, when you master it,  you will authentically connect to others as a side effect.

The connection that I am talking about is first and foremost to you, who you are, and your being.

How often do we move through our days, hours, and minutes and even seconds, disconnected from who we are?  Too many of us walk through our lives disconnected from who we indeed are.

We are too busy looking outward.

How could we feel anything but loneliness?

The answer is to be in the practice of being connected to ourselves. 

The most effective way to learn how to connect to ourselves is by Meditating.  One of my favorite methods is Emily Fletcher’s Zeva method

Another crucial thing you must do to connect with yourself is to be on your life path, do your life’s work.

“What hurts the hive, hurts the bee”  — Marcus Aurelius.

When Marcus Aurelius said, “What hurts the hive, hurts the bee,” in his, Meditation, he was talking about the imperative need that we all have to work to help one another and to be about making a positive difference in our world, that we are all bees, a part of a larger hive. 

We are all meant to be working toward the greater good.  

As a person who is in the practice of connecting to yourself, you become genuinely complete when you do just what it is you are here to do.  

You are here to do things that when you watch someone do them, something just feels right.  You get a jolt of pleasant good feelings in your brain.  

It feels natural if you are introduced to it right.  You want to do them even if no one paid you to do it.  

If you have no idea what you want to do, what your heart loves, then it is because a sequence of events in your life has established a disconnect from you and your life’s path. 

Discovering your life’s path by reconnecting with yourself is a worthy journey and a necessary journey if you want to be your best you.

Living your life fully, being fully in the moments, and giving all of these things, takes you on an opposite path from where loneliness dwells.  

You cannot be lonely in that state of being.