I grew up in a terrible household full of sufferings.  I then spent too much of my adulthood, doing my best to control and prevent pain.  All my attempts to control and prevent suffering from my life only caused more suffering in my life.

I was fortunate enough to learn how to use the events of the suffering to learn from them and then use them to share with others to heal from their pains.

In Man’s Search for Meaning, Victor Frankle talks about this very thing, that when suffering happens to you, that you can use it to further your potential as a human being in ways that you never imagined.

The counter to his examples is in many who crumble at the sight of something going wrong, and they not only do not grow from the experience but also weaken from suffering.

And then when you look at people who have never really gone through conflicts and had to rise out of them, they are fragile and ready to fall.

The thing is that all of the ways people play out the emotions of these things are dependent sorely on the way they decide to look at the events and themselves and how they relate themselves to them.  It is as simple as that.

I know this not just from having witnessed people and the studies that I have done. I have experienced the varying arranges of the reactions in myself, and the only difference between the person I was then who weakened due to conflicts and the person who I am now is that I  now use challenges and suffering to strengthen myself.

I can personally attest to the fulfillment and joy that I experience living a life practicing the ladder mode.