Breakups are hard anyway, but a breakup from a narcissist ex is often even harder. It is in large part due to the fact that you had been practicing being without yourself in order to make it work with someone who disregarded everything that was you. To avoid problems and conflicts with the narcissist ex, you complied with their wants and wishes, learning to distance yourself from any and all things that were you.  In order to get your sense of you back, you can put to practice the steps laid out below.

1. Rebuild your sense of yourself
   1. Reconnect with people who you have lost touch with because of your ex
   2. Do things that are important to you by yourself
   3. Do things that make you feel personal meaning and accomplishments

2. Take charge of every aspect of your life, current, and the future
   1. Don’t ask for permission from anyone at least for a bit and you decide to do things and do them
   2. Decide on what you will do daily, weekly, monthly, yearly and for your future

3. Learn how to practice giving to yourself
   1. Do things for yourself that you ignored during the relationship
   2. Pamper yourself regularly
   3. Take time to spend with yourself for yourself

4. Learn how to trust yourself.
   1. Practice trusting your perceptions
   2. Practice trusting your decisions
   3. Practice trusting your desires

5. Find or be on your purposeful path
   1.  Start doing things that are about your meaning and life’s purpose and your life’s work. Do whatever it takes to start on your path or if you don’t know what your path is, do whatever it takes to find your path.

By taking the above steps mindfully, you will begin to take your life back and by taking your life back, you will reconnect with the fact that you are worthy of love and that you are enough. When you heal yourself the right way, you are powerfully healing our world in a powerful way.